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creatives and the experience of experience

As I’ve started to become part of the blogosphere, I am reading more and more blogs. I especially like to read the blogs of creative people. Typically, I like to count myself among them.

I find that as I’m writing, there’s a temptation to compose the post as if I have a lot to say on the subject; as if I’m already an expert, providing information and advice from my experience. Certainly, I can only write from my experience. That much is true. And I can also tell you that if someone claims to be so objective that he/she doesn’t need to involve their experience, I will generally have no interest in reading her/his blog. (Suddenly, I have this urge to go back and re-read my own posts to make sure I did not fall into this temptation.)

The voice I’m longing to find in my writing is the voice of being real with you (and with myself). My judgement is that I have not found it fully up to this point. Speaking as if I’m an expert protects me from the “slings and arrows” of my imagination. It does little else as far as I can tell. In the end, it may be a way for me to lie to you — the reader. And that is something that I don’t want to do.

Worse yet, it’s a way to lie to myself and perpetuate the lie that says I need to protect myself by pretending to be someone that I’m not. (That was a very twisted and very true sentence.) I want to be myself. One of the ways I can do this is by presenting the real me here — not one cloaked in a facade of expertise. Don’t get me wrong. I acknowledge that I have knowledge and wisdom. But it’s not necessary to present that as being “the truth”. It is what it is: my truth.

So, my intention is to change the “voice” I use here. I can only write from my experiences. That’s what I intend to do. Starting with this post.

Certainly, this should be no stretch for me. I’m an improviser. I take whatever is happening in the moment — internally and my interpretation of what’s happening externally — and make it into musical, lyrical, poetic art. This creative process is not that hard for me. So, that’s all I have to remember: this writing/blogging is just another form of improvisation. It allows me to exform all the stuff that’s coming in during every minute of the waking (and maybe even sleeping) hours of the day.

…and there you go. Ta-dah! It worked. I let out the flow of thoughts from my current experience and created something new; something new for right now and something new for going forward. I am enjoying this new intention already. Thanks for witnessing.

Playful blessings,


16 thoughts on “creatives and the experience of experience”

  1. “Writing is a socially acceptable form of being naked in public.” ~Paul Coelho

    It is so *not easy* to be real. But it is what I want myself, too…and what I crave in other people.

    I know how great the temptation is for me to want to appear to know more than I do, to want to come across as more evolved than I am, to want to look like I have things ‘figured out.’ I fear that the REAL me is not good enough, not special…so I have a desire to ‘pretty things up.’ But I know that whenever I do that…, I can also never take joy in any positive response or outcome. When I present to the world exactly who I am & speak and live from my own experiences, I feel a wholeness, a satisfaction. I am pleasantly surprised…delighted…that people actually like me and respect my honesty and my willingness to reveal all that I am – weaknesses, confusions, and struggles, as well as strengths.

    That Paul Coelho quote’s so true, as writing from such a true and human place…feels vulnerable. But I see that as a good thing. Bring it on.

    I support you in your beautifully real journey and this sharing of your process. This real and honest Stan is the Stan I love & want to hear more from.

    1. Ah, Susan, what a wonderful response. (Let me know when you want to do a guest blog!)

      Thanks for bending with me towards the real — as difficult as it may be at times.

      Playful blessings,

  2. I have the same issues when blogging. My solution was to make it a goal to avoid using the words “I,” “my,” “myself,” and other such words that make the blog totally self-absorbed (as this comment so poorly illustrates). I’d like to think that it makes my blog much more approachable!
    But, you got me thinking that a lot of life can be viewed as a venue for improvisation. Your job, what you do in your personal time and all those little unexpected encounters in life. If we all made an effort to view day to day life as an opportunity to creatively improvise, we would avoid the issues that come with being stiffly regimented (we ll know people with a this-is-the-way-things-are-suppose-to-be-and-I-won’t-deviate attitude).
    Yay for improvisation!

    1. Good luck with your exploration of your “voice”. As you know, each of us must find our own.
      And you’ll never get an argument from me when you celebrate improv. 😉

      Many playful blessings,

  3. Nice to hear from you earlier today. You are certainly on the creative path and it’s important that you share the the struggles with us too. You have made me stop and think in a helpful way. I find myself censoring so many parts of my life on my blog but it’s because I dont want to “chatter” if you know what I mean? There’s too much chattering and not enough “being” for me. So my small forays into writing are about distilling something down into a meaningful and positive space. It is like the real me talking back to the other me. I am really talking to myself!! Stay in touch:~)

    1. That’s a great thought about the blog posts becoming chatter or just me talking to myself. That is not my goal, so thanks for the reminder.
      I want to contribute something to creative conversation by offering what I’ve learned from my mistakes, successes, realizations and so on. And it will be great for me to keep that in perspective with this new “voice”.

      Thanks for connecting again!

      Playful blessings,

  4. Right now I’m trying to set up a blog for the coming year on mindfulness and creativity – a topic I am certainly not an expert in. I know a lot of the common wisdom is that a successful blog is one in which you offer your expertise and give people useful tips that solve their problems, but there’s a lot of evidence to the contrary: that blogs in which you invite the reader to accompany you on a journey of discovery are equally popular. (Think Julie & Julia.) It would be pretty amusing (and ironic) for me to position myself as an expert on Beginner’s Mind. Give me the authenticity of an explorer over the certainty of an expert any day.

    1. Thanks, Paula.

      You’ve captured a part of my intention: I’m not an expert, so why not invite my readers (and myself!) into the exploration together.
      Best wishes with your blog. Will it be at the “” site or a new one?

      Playful blessings,

  5. Stan, I wish you luck with your exploration of voice in your blogging. I’m going to be teaching a course on blogging starting in April, and I want voice to be my focus, but I’m still working out what that focus should be. Maybe you’ve given me the answer, that you just need to experiment with it as you go. I will say this: You can’t write a WRONG voice if you don’t ACTUALLY lie. We use different voices with different people in our lives every day. If you know who you’re trying to reach with this blog, and keep them in mind while writing, the voice will come naturally. Good luck!

    1. Patrick,

      I deeply respect your craft in writing and teaching, so I’m honored that you dropped by. I also am really taking your comments to heart. Thanks for that.

      There’s a part of me that wants to drop into “You’re a real writer and I’m not” place, but I am choosing not to go there. You are a real writer. In my own way, I am, too.

      Great point about identifying my audience. And interesting to watch how that changes as I continue to be present on the web in various ways.

      Playful blessings,

  6. Good beginnings Stan… but then, perhaps like myself, you’ve been beginning as far as you can remember.

    My guitar teacher says his job is to make sure I have no where to hide musically. (muffling, deadening, skipping over, shortening, or otherwise obscuring or covering up as a way to deal with my difficulties).

    1. Great list, Dyck! I love it.

      Yes, you and I are great beginners. I hope we can keep this beginner’s mind for(ever) a long time.

      Playful blessings,

  7. Thanks for this post, Stan. I have worried in the past that my blog is too self involved but I came to a similar conclusion as you have here. I am not an expert on anything, I only know what works for me and I can only tell my story. Also, I really enjoy and learn so much from reading other people’s stories. Looking forward to reading more of yours here.

    1. Thanks so much for dropping by my blog! And it’s so wonderful to hear from another creative that you’ve come to the same conclusion.

      Playful blessings! 🙂

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